Nicole RahejaOct 26, 20202 min readCupcakes and CockroachesOur culture often pushes us to only think about the positive, and to deny or overlook any negative feelings we have. In my book,...
Nicole RahejaOct 26, 20202 min readAlways and NeverA few years ago, I saw a movie based on one of my favorite books. I didn’t like the movie because it had a lot of added drama that wasn’t...
Nicole RahejaMay 29, 20203 min readWhy We Victim-BlameA few years ago, I met someone new at a party. I’ll call her Sara. After we talked for a while, Sara shared with me that she had just...
Nicole RahejaFeb 16, 20203 min readValidating Others While Acknowledging Our Own PainImagine that a child, Joanna, falls down on the playground at school and sprains her ankle. She cries out for help, but no one comes...
Nicole RahejaJan 26, 20203 min readWhy We Invalidate Others When We're Not Meeting Our Own NeedsWhen I was in graduate school, we had a lot of group projects, and it was often hard to find a time when everyone could meet. While most...